Reverse-engineering our #autistic rage

Aspie Under Your Radar

person screaming We all have very good reasons to be enraged.

Over the past few months, I’ve noticed an “uptick” in the online autistic community drama levels. Of course, it could just be me… I haven’t been active in the autistic “scene” for years, until last spring. I gave it a whirl, back in the late 1990s, and again about 10 years ago, but the drama drove me away. I have a busy life with a lot of responsibilities that most folks don’t bother with and have no idea about, and I just haven’t got time for the drama.

Now, again, it starts. I see other people tweeting about it, blogging about it, emailing me about it. Ugh. It’s just so … awkward and painful and illogical, which for me is the equivalent of being flayed alive. Why can’t we all just get along?

Well, I’m pretty tired of feeling ill, every…

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How I untrained my system from #autistic rage

Aspie Under Your Radar

clouds of storm with sunset
So, yeseterday, I discussed how autistic folks can get so acclimated to outrage and fight-flight responses, that our systems become inclined to treat a lot of stuff like a threat, when it’s not. And we can react with intense self-defensiveness towards others who don’t actually mean us any harm… which doesn’t really help anything or anyone, including us.

I should know. I didn’t go into it much before, but once upon a time, I was pretty tightly wound, and I took just about everything unexpected as a threat that I needed to fight and overcome, even dominate. That worked well for me in the workplace, where that sort of behavior is rewarded. Everybody loves an independent contributor who’s “all over it” and attacks problems and challenges like they’re a mortal enemy which must be subdued.

But lemme tell you, it did a number on my nerves. And it made me…

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Choosing and landing a job as an Asperger’s / autistic person

the silent wave

First, I need to start off by saying that a job is not the end-all-be-all.  The larger society likes to synonymize one’s job with one’s very identity, but that’s a grave error.  We are not our jobs.  We are still ourselves, whole and complete, no matter what we do for a living, or whether or not we even have a job.  Being employed is advantageous for most and necessary for many; but it’s not the only Game-of-Life Bullet-Point by which we should measure ourselves, nor is it the only key that fits the Life Success Lock.  Each person is a valid and worthwhile human being, and there are many ways in which one can “contribute” to the rest of the world, if they wish to do so.

As I mentioned, landing and keeping a job is a necessity for many.  Regional laws and systems vary in terms of public support…

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Does your child get treated equally?

So all children have to attend school where the rules are the same for all and more often than not they wear a uniform to promote equality and prevent students from being singled out. Schools up and down the country will say they promote equality and equal opportunities and many do try very hard to … Continue reading Does your child get treated equally?

Shutting Down

I can't shut it out, the worlds volume has been cranked up and it hurts. It's to bright, to loud to confused. Smells mixs with images which in turn encompass sound, then my skin feels like even the air moving passed it is like sand paper. I'm hot and cold, then it seems to all … Continue reading Shutting Down